Where did every one go?
In my struggles and battles that I face, there are these moments of over load and confusion with no clarity of what is on my mind. Between a full time job and two part time jobs, it is often time difficult to keep things organized and clear. The factoring emotions while encountering unexpected obstacles and disappointments, it becomes even more of a toll.
One clear disappointment is people who call them selves a friend or a brother or sister and turn out to be far form it. In my time of need I have not had a support system. When I say I did not have one it is equal to zero. I had to literally start over. All my good friends completely forgot who I was and disregarded my character and accepted the false story that they were given by an evil person. I have started over but have found very few friends who I can consider personal Friends like in the past. Is it that I am just too picky? Do I have very high expectations? Not really!!! Not having Friends the requirements are pretty low at this moment.
Here is an example, we have friend who live in the same town and my wife has taken care for their only son since he was 6 months old and in their words, "We know that you care for him like if he was your son." We have been there for their marriage and supported them in their struggles. When they had to go to work and their son was ill, we accepted their son in the early hours of the night so that they can go to work. We have gone over their house for breakfast and they have came over for lunch and such so by this it would be easily for any one to say that we have a good friendship.
So here we are... our kids are starting high school and there is no bus transportation for them after school since they both take advantage of the tutoring and my hours have been changed and get out of work later than before. Remember we took care of the young son of the couple I just mentioned, well we asked the gal, the mother, if she would be willing to pick up our kids after school. The gal works right in the high school so it would only mean that there is no other additional driving and our kids would wait for her to leave and ride two miles to our house. The gal said yes and has done it for two weeks.
Now it seems as if we were asking them to feed, clothe and raise our kids for us. Last Saturday at a birthday party her husband wanted me to know that it was not going to happen every day and that some time they will not be able to do so. I told him that we knew that and we did not want to put any pressure on him or his wife.
This couple has just purchased a late model Toyota Camry and perhaps they do not want to over drive it? I do not know what he ask me that?? My wife said I should have asked why he was asking me that. I went to the gas station and purchased a gas card for them and asked the kids to give it to the gal so that we can compensate her for her troubles.
Now we are confused if they actually want to help us or not.
This is what I mean!!! If you are a Friend and you commit to helping a person then do so with all your heart not with developing conditions and requirements. How would it have been if when I answered the phone at 3 am in the morning and the husband is calling me to see if we can care for his son because his wife is ill and he has to go to work. What if I said to him, well I can this time but remember that we can not do this every week and make sure that you now that is only for today? That is ridiculous. There have been times when we put off our plans to care for their son because we are left with no car seat and cant drive around town with out one. We sacrifice for them and they get picky!!!
Unreliable friends and the struggle to find them it is a slow and painful process. The difficult thing is that these people are Christians and are active people in the church. It is painful to see and say this but it is true. Not all Christians are mature enough to be loving to their neighbor and to demonstrate a heart of service. It takes a mature person to deny self and serve without looking for minor details and such.
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